The Path of the Lovers: Standing at the Crossroads

The Lovers...excited to see it appear in your reading if you are asking about a potential mate or whether your relationship is moving toward a being a committed one?  Yes, you should be-- you are coming closer to taking the relationship to a higher level, but be aware that the implications of this card do not indicate an easy happily ever after...In my tarot deck, a man stands at a crossroads and contemplates a man and woman across the road.  Choosing to move forward into a relationship is a crossroads where we leave behind our selfishness, set-in-our ways singlehood and take the high road of melding our life with that of another individual.  We make the decision to put that person's needs often above our own, and to dedicate ourselves to the hard work of unconditional love (especially if the relationship involves marriage and children).  It is not an easy decision to make, and one that should not be taken lightly.

Yes, I want to be his lover, but am I willing to make the sacrifices needed to help him realize his soul's potential?  Would I sacrifice my freedom if he were to perhaps, fall seriously ill, or become physically incapacitated in some way?  It is so important for both parties to be in agreement as they choose the path of the Lovers.  It is not just about being lovers in the physical sense, and many people may read this card as a portent of a fulfilling sexual relaitonship.  To step onto the path of the Lovers is to make a life-altering decision that may have little to do with love in the physical sense.

It is to return to the Garden of Eden, the bliss of innocence.... the purity of unconditional love, and the joy and wonder of discovering your lover for the first time.  With love, prayer, and humility, that joyful and innocent discovery of one another can be something that occurs on a daily basis, even when the Lovers have moved into old age.  It is what happens when hearts recognize each other for the first time...the bursting of love's wellspring.  It is the promises of the marriage vow.

But keep in mind the connection between the Lovers card and the Devil card.  If the decision to tread the path of the Lovers is made only with regard for the self, it can be a path of bondage and sorrow.  If one individual in the relationship uses love or sex to control the other, the relationship will never grow to its highest good.  If unconditional love and the willingness to put selfish needs aside are not present in the relationship, there could be obsession, manipulation, and cruelty down the road.

As the decision is made to join two hearts, the Lovers must take hands and fortify themselves against the temptation to revert to self-love.  There must be devotion, and the desire to fulfill the relationship's destiny according to God's plan.  As you think about choosing the road of the Lovers, a reflection on the purpose of soul-love and/or marriage is in order.  It is important to discern what love is and what it is not: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." (1 Corinthians 4-7)

The path of the Lovers is not for the flighty or the faint-hearted.  If this card comes up in a reading about your love interest, take it seriously and reflect honestly on whether the person you are asking about is someone you can walk that road with.

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